When we talk wedding planning, one topic that is left out is how to personalize your wedding. I’m not just talking monograms here; I mean how can someone infuse their personality in their day? Where would someone even start? In my decade in the industry, I have seen five areas where it is easiest to make your guest be able to say, “Oh yes, this is *their* wedding!”
- THE CLOTHES: A pink dress. A top had. Plaid suits. The wedding wear is the easiest and most efficient way to make your day YOUR day. No one should ever be afraid to wear what they want to wear on their day, and it is a great way to personalize your wedding.
- THE MEAL AND DESSERT: You know how I knew it was one of my friend’s weddings? There was apple crisp in lieu of cake. She broke tradition to be herself. Having a specific dish or sweet treat that is your favorite is a great way to make your wedding yours, and there is nothing wrong with that.
- THE INVITATIONS: There’s this crazy idea that everything in your invitation suite has to be thematically tied to your day. That is simply not true, and your invitation can be a great place to let your personality shine and to personalize your wedding. It is also a great place to bring in a little humor if you are cheeky (I personally love this Zazzle invitation)
- THE FLORALS: This one is probably a given, but a real easy way bring your personality Inyo your wedding is through your floral choices (or lack there of). This past summer, I had the coolest wedding between a mixologist and a chef where the wedding party’s florals were fresh herbs. It was amazing, and truly unique to them. I had another wedding were the florals were the colors of the couple’s birthstones. The florals is a subtle way to say “This is my day!”
- THE UNITY CEREMONY: What we have so often seen as candle lighting or hand fasting can be so much more, and it can be totally yours. The aforementioned wedding between the kitchen-loving couple had a unity ceremony of making pickles, while another 2022 couple drank the same beer they shared on one of their first dates. The point of a unity ceremony is to symbolize you and your love becoming one, so it is another great place to personalize your wedding.
Some people in your circle might consider all of this sacrilege and bucking tradition…and it is. So many wedding traditions are archaic and outdated and without much focus on the couple. We live in a time when we don’t need to worry about that, and you deserve to make your day your day, and I sure hope these ways help you personalize your wedding!
Kayla Lee is a Minnesota-based wedding and elopement photographer (and handcrafter and designer on the side). She serves elegant, authentic, sentimental couples who not only choose their own adventures, but also live them to the fullest! See more about the KLP Wedding Experience!